Have you ever read Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements” and “The Fifth Agreement”? Although written for adults, the agreements are appropriate for use by children as well.
My mother in law, also an educator, gave me this compiled list of the “Five Agreements”. “The Five Agreements” are a superb way to talk to your child about how to be with other people in the world. Since much of our anxiety is triggered by interactions with others, the following “agreements” are very helpful. Let’s face it, we can all take note and try to live by these rules.
- Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
- Don’t take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
- Don’t make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
- Always do your best.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
- Be skeptical, but learn to listen.
By being skeptical, we don’t believe every message we hear; we don’t put our faith in lies, and when our faith is not in lies, we quickly move beyond emotional drama, victimization, and the limiting belief systems our “domestication” has programmed us with.
The joy of learning. Together.